“When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been. But she had wings.”~Dean Jackson
“You have the opportunity to transform yourself, to make a fresh start.” That’s what an acquaintance said to me a couple of months ago after we had moved from the large suburb we had lived in for over three decades to a small, seaside town.
Of course, I knew we were making a big leap. Still, I hadn’t really considered at length how the move could be a change agent for my identity. The acquaintance had observed that since no one here knew me, I could start over on who I am.
This has gotten me to chew a lot on this notion of transformation, especially as I both look back over a year of dramatic external change and out over the sea of a brand spanking new year. And nothing hammers home the vitality of transformation like the mystical marshlands.
No question: A lot has altered for me and my family. Everything from our physical environment, including the daily, up close and personal meetings with a variety of wildlife, to the shape of our days.
But I’ve also been reminded that as much as major outward changes–like jobs, homes, relationships–can trigger or facilitate inward transmutations, the elixir for metamorphoses lies within us. Those outward changes? They generally don’t mean a thing for who we are inside, unless we make it so.
Sure, those circumstances in which we find ourselves can discourage us or complicate the transformations we seek to make. Yet often obstacles are surmountable if we possess the ingredients for a transformation elixir :).
Priceless ingredients like:
1) openness to change
2) movement, any movement, in the direction of the transformation–you know, the journey of a hundred miles begins with a single step….
3) a transformation mentor or pal–someone who will support us and/or join us on a transformation journey
4) visualizing the desired change
5) a role model–someone who has taken a risk and revamped, and whose story fires us up
6) ignoring naysayers!
7) tenacity and courage–big time
8) your great ingredient(s)
Move or no, I’ve got some transformation I am going after and some that is just beginning to materialize out of the mists. Transformation can be scary, as we transition and inhabit that “in between” place…and as exciting as all get out. It’s creative! It’s alchemy!